5 Phrases You Should Say To Yourself In Times Of Difficulty

Moments of difficulty knock on our door without waiting for them and, even more, without any of us being truly prepared to face them. Adversity has many forms. So many that, sometimes, even having the best support or having read multiple self-help books is not enough.

Despite the fact that on many occasions we have heard that “difficulties prepare ordinary people to find extraordinary destinations” , reality tells us that many times the only thing we are looking for is simply to feel good.

Life will bring those extraordinary destinies in due course, but when we feel faint, when moments of difficulty embrace us, we must not hesitate to say these phrases to ourselves.

1. I have the right to cry, but also to smile again

Emotional relief is essential to go through a duel, assume a failure, a mistake or a difficulty. You should never hold back, nor should we feel ashamed of feeling downcast and lacking in strength.

Now, this state and that respectable need to “embrace our demons” should not extend in time or be permanent.

Crying and unraveling our sadness has a very clear purpose: to help us accept what happened in order to move on, to promote change later. We deserve to smile again.

2. The person who can best help me in times of difficulty is myself

We can have good friends, an exceptional partner, and a loving family. Now, those who must be able to face those moments of difficulty are ourselves.

Without will, without energy, without illusion, it is very difficult for us to get out of that room of darkness that now surrounds us. Let’s listen to those around us and allow ourselves to be helped, but let’s also put in place the mechanisms to move forward.

3. You cannot choose the circumstances, but you can choose your thoughts to face them

There are things that cannot be avoided: a loss, an illness, an absence, a relationship in which we have to put an end to it despite our efforts …

• None of us can control 100% those complicated circumstances that, from time to time, life takes care of us. Instead, we are responsible for our thoughts.
• A ” I can’t ” completely immobilizes us and brings us equally negative emotions. Now, with an ” I’m going to be able to do this ” that emotionality completely changes and we find renewed strength.

4. Life is beyond the line of fear

The comfort zone is that invisible space where everything that is safe, known and controllable is contained.

Now, in moments of difficulty, we feel that adversity has crossed those walls and imprisons us with its elongated fingers. Our calm and what we once took for granted is crumbling.

We must cross that fear and step beyond that line.

• If we are afraid to think what will become of us now after that loss, let’s cross that wall. Let us first accept what happened and then remember that life must go on, and we with it.  You have to move forward.
• If we feel threatened, let us rationalize those fears and remember the previous sentence: “who can best help us is ourselves”.

5. You have to cultivate inner peace and balance every day.

We take care of the diet, the body and we go to the doctor for routine check-ups. We take care of our own every day and, surely, we arrive almost without strength to bed. Now, let’s ask ourselves this question: when was the last time we attended to our emotions, needs, or inner peace?

If we always put the happiness of others before our own, we will end up sunk. In the same way, if we focus our efforts on “things”, on accumulating or getting them, we will lose the sense of what is authentic: our happiness, our integrity.

When times of difficulty come we must be prepared, and nothing better than cultivating our peace every day, strengthening self-esteem and self-concept.

Understanding, above all, that life flows, that it changes at every moment. Whether we like it or not, we must be part of this vital movement.

Resilience is the best weapon one can have

To conclude, since none of us can foresee when those complicated moments that always put us to the test may occur, the essential thing is to put in place the always effective mechanisms of resilience. Because whoever wants to see the rainbow must be willing to accept the storm.