Am I In A Mature Or Immature Relationship?

Perhaps you have ever wondered whether you are in a mature or immature relationship.

Without a doubt, there are big differences between the two. Thus, each of them can determine the success or failure of that established link.

An immature relationship always brings pain, suffering and a lot of damage that both partners will experience.

This does not usually happen in a mature relationship. However, from the first one, one can learn to redirect future ties so that they are established in a healthy way.

Differences between a mature and an immature relationship

I can live without you but I choose to live with you

One of the first symptoms of an immature relationship is that both partners believe that they cannot live without each other.

These types of relationships have a high degree of dependency that causes, sooner or later, the couple to hurt themselves.

On the other hand, in the mature relationship the two people know how to be independent. They do not rely on the other to be happy, nor do they make their well-being depend on the other.

Each of the members of the relationship are fully responsible for themselves. They are not afraid of being alone.

They can live without being together, but in their maturity they choose, wisely, to share their life with the other person.

I need you to love me, because I can’t do it

In immature relationships, the couple needs the other to feel wanted and loved. They have not cultivated, they have not been healed and they need another person to fill their emptiness.

These people have serious emotional deficiencies to which they have paid attention or sought a solution.

The only easy way out that they have found has been to put patches on them in the form of pairs.

This does not happen in mature relationships. In this, each of the members knows that to love the other person they have to love themselves first.

In this way, a healthy bond is established where things that you like are not done just to please and obtain the love of the other.

Everything will happen as it has to

When we immerse ourselves in immature relationships, worry is the order of the day. We calculate the hours in which we are together or not, we plan down to the last detail and we do not give room for improvisation.

In short, there is an excess of control to compensate for a fear. This can be fear that the couple will leave us, that love will end, etc. This is an immature relationship.

What is the variant in the mature relationship? It flows and the couple lets go without having to control what happens.

In this way, the relationship satisfies, it does not cause need or anguish, there is no rush, you live in the moment.

I will blame you and judge you to the end

This is common in immature relationships, judging and blaming the other almost constantly.

They do not accept the partner, they are questioned, they are even judged for mistakes they made before they met.

However, the mature relationship knows how to forgive, does not hold a grudge and each of the members is responsible for their actions. Thus, instead of judging each other, they help each other to learn and grow from each other.

It is not necessary to live in a past that cannot be changed. Also, this is a very toxic attitude.

A couple has to move forward, push forward. Only then will you be able to display full maturity.

Having been through an immature relationship is not something that we should consider as bad or negative. It is simply an experience that we have to overcome, observe and thus learn.

Everything that happens to us in life helps us to improve, as long as we are aware of it and are willing to resolve conflicts.

The couple’s world still holds many secrets. Sometimes it is arid terrain, other times a much kinder one.

The key is in that balance that only a mature relationship provides to the bond.