Don’t Let Your Emotional Wounds Change You

It is normal for us to review our past, apply its teachings, and feel its pain. However, sometimes we get used to it and live permanently in it. This causes us emotional wounds, which encyst and infect as we touch it.

It may be habitual and we are used to it, but living with our emotional wounds permanently open prevents us from moving forward. It does not let us enjoy what we have or tie the present tightly.

Emotional vertigo: not being able to say goodbye

The fear of letting go, saying goodbye and closing stages has a name: emotional vertigo. It is one of the purest fears that exist and consists of the fear of facing the void that generates the loss of someone, something or the simple daily life that surrounds us.

One day, suddenly, you feel vulnerable and irascible, you feel like leaving everything and running away, but you can’t. You feel that you live on an emotional roller coaster, that insecurity reigns in you and that you do not feel capable of controlling the situation. All these emotions drown you and you do not see the way out of your bitterness.

You feel that if you deviate from the script you have established for your life, you will cause a catastrophe of immense magnitude. To move forward requires a lot of work, search within yourself and try to complete yourself. There are no magic formulas, the solution is within you.

Disinfect our emotional wounds

The wounds of the soul are full of pain, anger, spite, disability, loneliness, betrayal, lack of support, misunderstanding, sadness, longings, deceptions, guilt, own and others that have made it more and more painful. Therefore, this step is one of the most difficult to carry out. To heal our emotional wounds we have to:

1. Locate them

Our wounds produce a characteristic sadness that paralyzes us, blocking any possibility of being afloat. Thus, we have to inquire within ourselves and look for that pain that we do not want to think about. To find the right answers you have to ask yourself many questions such as: Where does it hurt? Since when? Because it can be?

2. Talk about them

It is said that sometimes what a person needs is not a brilliant mind to speak to him but a patient heart to listen to him. In this case, in addition to being willing to talk, we need someone to listen to us.

As we have discussed, our wounds not only hurt, but they also limit us. In fact, the more serious they are, the more they do it. We should not care how long we have been suffering from them, we have to empty them and eliminate from our interior everything that we have kept silent.

We usually apply the law of silence thinking that it is the best, because saying out loud about our feelings and thoughts seems wrong to us. Nothing is further from reality, talking and taking out what we carry inside acts as a restorative balm.

3. Drain them

The wounds of our emotional past ooze feelings, emotions and thoughts that hurt us. For this reason, we have to stop perpetuating their stay within us, since they live at our expense and inflame damaged areas to unsuspected limits.

To drain your emotional wounds, what you have to do is cry. Crying always expels part of our pain. Be quiet, do crazy things, tear papers. Do what you want, but put your suffering to death.

4. Let them sting

In the beginning, doing something different always costs, but every habit is habit. Become aware that the wound hurts because you are acting on it, thus preventing the injury from becoming encyst and your pain from taking root.

Heal the emotional wounds of our past

Sometimes we hope that things will change on their own and, since nothing does, we have no choice but to change ourselves. It is important that you close your wound and do not allow anything else to go inside. Not the things, darn it, let it be noted that something was torn and you put its pieces back together.

Use a good needle and renew your interior. Always remember that there was something that broke inside you, something that was a before and after in your life. Do not be ashamed to carry the banner of the scar, that makes you a new person and capable of much more.

Do as Kintsukuroi Japanese art. When an object breaks, the damaged area is repaired by filling the cracks with gold dust. This is intended to make the damaged part even stronger than it was previously. In other words, the damages that originated after the accident are now the strongest and most  beautiful part of the piece.

This is the best way to heal our wounds, turning pain and self-improvement into pride, our distinctive part. Because, after all, our experiences and our learnings make up who we are today.

You will change by healing your emotional wounds, you will stop being who you are not and you will accept yourself. There will no longer be emotional wounds that trap you or sadness that adds up to blackness. At the end of the day, it is about facing, accepting and continuing to walk the path of life without being caught by wounds.