I Don’t Feel Valued By My Partner: What Can I Do?
Every day more people seek therapeutic support arguing: “I do not feel valued by my partner: what can I do?” Faced with this question, the answers may be closer than you think.
It is normal to want recognition from the partner. In fact, as some studies show, happiness in general is complemented by happiness in a relationship.
If things are not going well with your partner, then you may not feel happy at all. Next, we want to propose some suggestions so that you can overcome that feeling of low value in your relationship.
Why don’t I feel valued by my partner?
First of all, when do you begin to feel that the partner does not value their partner? This answer can be particular, depending on each relationship. However, some research does tell us when things are going well, and this happens on the following occasions:
- When there is trust.
- There are no grudges or resentments in the couple.
- They know how to forgive themselves.
- Walk together in life, without leaving your goals aside.
- They like to walk hand in hand.
- They check in at least once a day to see how their work is doing.
- They show themselves proudly to the world and are not afraid or ashamed to be seen together.
- They return home and hug each other.
- Every morning they say “I love you” or “good morning.”
- They try to go to bed at the same time.
- They have common interests, among others.
If any of these points fail, or most of them, it is likely that the pair is not working quite well. Couples who value each other take time and do not use “I have a lot of jobs” as an excuse, they feel proud of their partner and they provide support, in addition to recognizing and celebrating each other’s achievements.
What to do if my partner does not value me?
If you feel that your partner is not giving you the value you deserve, you better start evaluating your relationship. According to inquiries in this regard, the relationship between assertive relationships and the impact they have on quality of life affect personal development and well-being.
That is, if you do not feel good in your relationship, and you consider that other areas of your life are being affected, start by analyzing the following guidelines:
- See how much you value yourself. This factor is crucial, and it is worth asking yourself if you place yourself first or last in the relationship. How much do you give of yourself? Are you always willing to give in? Are you always complacent? Do you do everything to keep him by your side? Answering yes to these questions could indicate that you need to work on your self-esteem.
- Take time for yourself. Not your whole life can be centered around your partner. Start hanging out with your friends, talking to other people, doing activities that you like or that help you feel good.
- Do not stay in silence. You can turn to a trusted person and express yourself. Locking ourselves in an isolated world is never healthy.
- Communicate with your partner. As frankly as possible. Tell him how you feel and listen to his responses to determine more properly whether your feelings are justified or not.
- Tell your partner what you want. Do it in an assertive way, maybe you want to share more time, do activities together or assume certain responsibilities. Do it assertively and express how their attitude affects your feelings.
- Decide. If you are completely convinced that your partner does not value you, then, perhaps, it is time to make decisions, considering the pros and cons of that relationship.
I do not feel valued by my partner: when to seek psychological help?
If you feel that you have tried everything, but are not getting results, it is likely that you need to seek psychological support. At times, perhaps, you may be experiencing an unhealthy type of attachment. Another situation you may find yourself in is in the middle of an unhealthy relationship, with a toxic person.
It is important to identify what is really happening in order, together with a therapist, to design a plan that will help you overcome this situation and begin to experience greater well-being in your life.
Remember that you are capable of everything and you do not depend on a single person to be happy, since the feeling of well-being and happiness resides only in you.
