Meeting The Perfect Person At The Right Time Is Magic

Sociability and that continuous and deep desire to meet people to enjoy their connection, is something that has always lived in the heart of human existence.

Aristotle already spoke of it at the time. Later, Austrian physicians Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs were the first to approach the subject of sociability in a vigorous theoretical and empirical way.

At the same time, we cannot forget the classic pyramid of human needs by Abraham Maslow.

There where the search for acceptance, affection, friendship, love and belonging define, without a doubt, that value, that genetic principle that shapes us and that, in turn, guarantees our survival.

Now if there’s one thing we all know, it’s that It is not easy to find that person or those who are completely in tune with our being, with our values, with our identity, hobbies and passions.

It is also necessary to remember that to consolidate a great friendship or a good relationship, it is not necessary to agree 100% in each of the aspects that surround our personality.

There is something more intangible, something that we cannot define or explain that creates those truly magical links that last over time.

From time to time, and almost without knowing how, we “connect” with someone, we have experienced everything on occasion. Someone perfect who arrives at the precise moment, in the most needy …

If this has ever happened to you, we suggest you delve into the subject to understand what can explain this wonderful phenomenon.

Meeting the perfect person: the power of connection

Louise Hawkley is a scientist at the University of Chicago (United States) and a specialist in the investigation of psychosocial phenomena.

According to this researcher, a large part of those special bonds that we do not know how to define, but that consolidate very strong friendships or stable and happy relationships, are characterized by having in common these dimensions that build what we often call “connectivity” roughly:

• Intimate connectivity is the first of them , and refers to that more private aspect that is the dimension of “I”.
  • When we meet someone we feel almost immediately if that person harmonizes or connects with our being, if we are understood, if there is freshness, complicity …
  • It is like a natural instinct that has a lot to do with intuition.

• The second dimension is defined as relational connectivity and has to do with the frequency with which we have contact with that person.
  •  Often when we meet someone, we do not feel any special need or interest to send them messages, to comment on certain aspects, to meet them …
  • However, in real connectivity there is that daily complicity of “good morning, how about” of “I thought this”, “we do this or that” …

• Finally, we have collective connectivity and it refers to the comfort with which that person is also integrated into our closest personal nucleus (family, friends …).

The power of intuition or that sixth sense that guides us towards the right people

As we pointed out at the beginning, finding that special person or people is not easy.

Most of us have suffered disappointments, we have all placed hopes and illusions in people who, at some point, have failed us or, simply, were not as we thought.

We ourselves have also failed someone or maybe even that, at a given moment, we have decided that it is better to establish distances, for whatever reasons.

All these dynamics are normal in our life cycle, in that timeline where one gains experience and wisdom, that magical substrate that, after all, makes our sixth sense more and more skillful, more awake.

Now, something that we can never ignore or underestimate is the power of intuition.

And it is she who -almost always- makes precise and accurate readings about who suits us and who is not.

How does intuition work when meeting a person?

Our intuition has nothing supernatural, magical, or extrasensory power.

• In reality, it is the ability of our brain to give us opinions or quick information according to what is in our unconscious.
• That intimate and exceptional trunk that is our unconscious actually hides the essence of our entire being: past experiences, our emotions, our identity, hidden desires, needs, values, memories …
• What it does intuition is a quick trip towards that trunk, towards that spectacular garden that is our unconscious to consult it, to find a quick answer to a question, to an image, to a face …

When we meet someone, our unconscious makes a quick assessment according to who we are and what defines us.

Soon, it sends us a sensation, that prick or that strange tingling that appears in our mind and that makes up our intuition or hunch.

This will be what tells us if that person is trustworthy or not, if it is worth seeing them again, give them our phone number …

To conclude, it never hurts to listen to that inner voice and value it.

Magical connections with other people happen every day. However, remember: you must be receptive, let yourself go and be attentive to what surrounds you to find them …

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