Our Partner Is Our Mirror

There are many people in whom we can see ourselves reflected. Family, friends. However, the most important relationship is with our partner, since the partner is our biggest mirror.

Despite not being very aware of what it means for others to be our mirrors, the truth is that, if we keep an open mind and stop saying “no, I’m not that” , we will allow ourselves to observe parts of ourselves that simply sight we do not perceive.

But … if the couple is our mirror, in what way can we see ourselves reflected? Today we will discover how we can observe ourselves from our relationship with the other.

What bothers the most is not the other’s, it’s mine

Does it bother you that your partner always leaves the bed undone? Do you want me to stop being such a perfectionist? Does it get on your nerves that she’s so independent?

All these questions contain an anger, a certain resentment and a nervousness that you cannot bear from the other person’s behavior. But remember: the couple is our mirror.

What does it mean to me that my partner always leaves the bed undone?

Perhaps, instead of berating him, you should ask yourself, in what aspects of my life am I inflexible?

If your partner has an obsession for order, to the point of being a perfectionist for the position of a piece of furniture, you would have to see in which area you do not give 100%. Why don’t you do your best? Why do you settle for what is “passable”?

Focusing on the last of the questions, if it makes you nervous that your partner is independent, that he stays with his friends and you feel a bit on the side … ask yourself, is my partner everything to me? Do I have time for my friends or myself?

These are just a few examples of how our partner is our mirror. However, each person is different and the interpretation of what makes us so uncomfortable and bothersome about the other can be completely different.

The important thing is to detect it. Hate that I speak so loud? Does it get on my nerves that he’s such a joker? If so, you have that which bothers you, because if you did not have it, it would not bother you.

Think about the first question for a moment. If your partner made the bed, you would not even notice, it would not reflect anything to you. However, the moment it doesn’t, it reflects your lack of flexibility in some aspect of your life that you have to resolve.

Our partner is our mirror and helps us to know each other better

The fact that the couple is our mirror is not a misfortune, quite the contrary. It is a help to get to know each other better and open our eyes to a reality that we tend to deny.

Battered people

A painful example, but also clear, is that of people who are abused. What is the person who abuses you reflecting to you? That they don’t respect each other, that they mistreat themselves.

Yes, although it sounds hard to admit. In what way are they mistreated? Giving power to someone who does not want them, with the consequent lowering of self-esteem. Hurting each other through the other, because if the other mistreats me and I decide to continue with him, the fault is mine.

The mirror, like a normal one, should be an opportunity to see ourselves and make a decision. Some mirrors are very revealing, like this painful case that many people experience every day.

If our partner is our mirror, let’s take advantage of it! Let’s look at ourselves without masks, without denials and without wanting to be who we are not.

Let us accept our mistakes and our mistakes, let us accept our shortcomings. This will allow us to get to know each other better, make the relevant decisions and even change.

Change our way of proceeding with others or with circumstances that we may believe we are a victim of when, in reality, they are helping us.

Helping to be stronger, to change course, to take control of our own life. Allowing us to see our deficiencies, so that they stop being so and strengthen us.

If the couple is our mirror … what is yours reflecting to you?

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